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Gilead

by Marilynne Robinson, 2004

Found this book in the Little Free Library on Locust Street. It is on several best books lists. It’s about a sweet, old pastor (77 years old) who is going to die soon, writing a very long letter to his 7 year-old son. He married (for the 2nd time) late in life; he fell in love with a young lady who happened into his church on Pentecost Sunday and who asked him to marry her after a few months. He married young the first time, but lost his first wife and child in child-birth, a loss that he lived with and hurt over for most of his life. They were Louisa and a baby girl, Angeline, which he was going to name Rebecca, but his best friend who baptized her as she died, did not know that.

The old pastor is named John Ames. He was born in 1880, and he is the son and grandson of preachers. He starts writing to his beloved son when he is 76 years old, so the time period is 1956. The setting is Gilead, Iowa, where he has lived since he was 3 years old, except for the time he was in college and seminary. His best friend is Boughton, with whom he grew up, and who lives down the street, and also happens to be a preacher. Boughton is failing and one of his daughter’s, Glory, and then his youngest son, Jack, come home to Gilead to help him out. Jack is young (40’s), handsome, and has a bad history, but he is beloved. This is the story within the story. At first, John Ames is a little wary and maybe jealous of young Jack. Jack is his name-sake – Boughton named him John Ames Boughton after him, his best friend in all the world, John Ames, as sort of a kindness since he lost his wife and child. Young Jack has been gone a long time, and Boughton is so happy he has returned home, although he knows there is something going on, and he’s sad that Jack won’t tell him.

When Jack was in high school, he got a very young, very poor girl pregnant and rather than marry her and take care of her and the baby, he abandoned her. Jack’s father, Boughton, and Jack’s mother and sisters would visit the baby once a week and, even though the poor family would never welcome them, they left gifts and money for the little girl. The little girl died when she was 3 years old because she stepped on a tin can and the infection killed her. John Ames has never really forgiven young Jack for being so mean and callous, abandoning this young girl and their child.

Young Jack wants badly to talk to John Ames and, finally, they do have a heart-to-heart talk. It turns out young Jack has fallen in love with a black woman and they have a child together. They were having difficulty living in the current times with laws against white and black marrying and general racial prejudice in St. Louis where they lived. This talk happens towards the end of the book. Before that, young Jack would come around and play catch with the little boy (John Ames’ son), sat at church with John Ames’ son and his wife, while John Ames is preaching; and visit in the evening, sitting on the porch with the family. In the end, after the heart-to-heart talk, John Ames forgives young Jack. Young Jack leaves town and, though it breaks Boughton’s heart, John Ames understands, his heart is at peace, he can pray easily again, and sleep well again. He can die.

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Yellowface

by R. F. Kuang, 2023

A page-turner! What an original tale! Spellbinding! This is the Fort Collins Reads book for 2024. The author comes Sunday, October 27th at 2 p.m. to the Fort Collins Marriott. It is also our first selection for the 2024-2025 season of the Old Town Library’s Book Club.

An unsuccessful author, June Hayward, is jealous of her super-star friend, an Asian author, Athena Liu. Everything Athena writes is successful. One night, they are celebrating Athena’s Netflix deal and Athena chokes on a pancake and dies. June steals Athena’s latest typewritten manuscript and makes it her own. All of June’s success is haunted, though, and there are a few people out there who know the truth. I was in distress at times reading this story. I felt June’s fear, shame, guilt. What an incredible writer. But the world June lived in was so empty and shallow – all she wanted was fame and fortune; being the best, the most popular, and having all the attention. Her life is ruled by social media, Twitter and Instagram, for hours upon hours. (Facebook is never mentioned, not once.) She could live with herself as long as she didn’t get found out, and she is constantly checking social media. At only one point in the book does she regret what she did and think about coming clean, giving all the profits to Athena’s mother and charities. But that is only a fleeting thought. She quickly goes back to spinning her messy web of lies and deceit. There is also an insider’s look at the publishing world. June’s experience makes it seem like success has nothing to do with the talent of the writer, but everything to do with slick marketing.

Excellent book! I almost stopped reading it at the beginning because she starts out describing how June feels about Athena so well, and it was ugly, spiteful, jealousy. I didn’t want to be immersed in that world. But I didn’t stop reading and was soon immersed in the horror of it all – how could June do this and now, how is this going to end!

It ends with a vengeful author getting June to admit on hidden camera that she stole the manuscript, and then going public with the story, getting a 7- figure advance for her tell-all memoir. June considers suicide but then she decides to write. Her writer’s block disappears. She is going to write her own memoir, spinning the tale in her favor. The madness goes on and on.

I remember Crime and Punishment and the feelings I had while reading that. This book evoked similar feelings – fear, guilt, shame. Excellent writer, but what a sad, ugly world!

Unruly Saint: Dorothy Day’s Radical Vision and Its Challenge for Our Times

by D.L. Mayfield, 2022

I learned about this book from the library’s monthly biographies email. It’s a short, very well-written, and easy to read biography of Dorothy Day, the woman who started the Catholic Worker newspaper and Hospitality Houses for the poor. I had never heard of her, but Pope Francis in 2015 said to Congress that she was one of the 4 most influential Americans, along with Abraham Lincoln, Martin Luther King Jr., and Thomas Merton.

She was born in 1897. She loved God from an early age, walking around thanking Him for things. Her parents were not church-goers. At the age of 30, she converted to Catholicism because she wanted to help the poor. She wanted to help the poor because she believed, as the Scriptures say, that when you help the poor, you are helping Jesus.

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Firekeeper’s Daughter

by Angeline Boulley, 2021

Engrossing mystery recommended to me by Cousin Gretchen. It’s YA, but well-written and a page-turner. I loved the setting (Ojibwe community of the Sault Ste. Marie tribe of Chippewa Indians and Sault Ste. Marie, in upper Michigan). I loved the main character (Daunis, 1/2 Indian, 1/2 rich white girl). It’s modern day times and Daunis has to mesh her Indian traditions and culture with modern day American culture. Unfortunately, meth has taken over the lives of some of her best friends. A friend (Travis) who has become hopelessly addicted to it shoots and kills Daunis’s best friend, Lily. Daunis becomes a CI (Confidential Informant) for the FBI, who have come to town and are hoping to find the main meth dealers. It’s a love story and a mystery and I learned a lot about ancient Indian traditions intertwined with modern-day lives. The Elders of the Indian community, whom Daunis visits with almost every day, end up saving the day, saving her life.

Beautiful love story, too, between Daunis and Jamie Johnson, one of the FBI undercover agents posing as a high school senior and a hockey player.

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Long Way Down

by Jason Reynolds, 2017

A very unusual book. Written in verse style so, although it is 306 pages long, I read it in just an hour or so. A 15 year-old black child, Will, is following the rules after his beloved brother, Shawn, is murdered. The rules are: Don’t cry, Don’t Snitch, Get revenge. He has taken Shawn’s gun out of the middle drawer and stuck it in the back of his pants, and has walked out of the apartment where his Mom has fallen asleep after crying all night at the kitchen table. Will gets into the elevator and pushes the L button, for Lobby (or Loser). As the elevator goes down 7 floors, it stops at each floor and a person gets on. It ends up that each person except for one is a beloved family member or friend of Will’s, who has been murdered because someone was following the rules. The last person to get on is Will’s beloved brother, Shawn. These people (ghosts) show him powerfully how one evil leads to another and another and another.

I read this book because of Isabel’s page of drawings (see below). She said they were from Long Way Down, Anastasia, and Fahrenheit 451. We didn’t talk about the book at all, in fact, she couldn’t remember the title of it until Anza reminded her of it. I didn’t know what to expect. I just wanted to know what kind of books 8th grade teachers were having their students read. This was okay. No graphic violence, foul language, or anything like that. It might be a little disturbing for a young, innocent suburban child, but all-in-all, it is good for us to know how a young, urban black child can get roped into a life of violence. Here is Isabel’s artwork:

In the hardcover book, the quote Isabel wrote above is on page 19, rather than page 28. The gun, the EKG lines, the cigarettes, and the Do Not Cross are all part of the book. Great job, Isabel! I’m glad I read this book.

By the time Will gets to the Lobby (Loser), he has spent time with Buck, Dani, Uncle Mark, Pop, Frick, and Shawn. All dead because someone was following the rules. It is so sad that these people are dead. Such a sad, sad waste. So much needless violence and heartache and loss. The rules are bad and should not be followed. Stop the chain.

The way the book ends is Shawn, Will’s beloved brother, saying “You coming?” I thought he was in the elevator when he says that, but I guess all the ghosts get off the elevator and Shawn looks back to Will and asks, “You coming?” Hopefully, Will decides not to murder Riggs, because he may not have been the person who murdered Shawn, and because he realizes he must stop the cycle of violence.

The Wager: A Tale of Shipwreck, Mutiny and Murder

by David Grann, 2023

Good, fast read by the author of Killers of the Flower Moon. Tells the true story of the ship, the Wager, a British warship that took off in 1740 for an ill-fated voyage with 4 other ships, to go around Cape Horn (the tip of South America) and capture a Spanish treasure ship on the west coast of South America during the War of Jenkins’ Ear.

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American Prometheus: The Triumph and Tragedy of J. Robert Oppenheimer

by Kai Bird and Martin J. Sherwin, 2005

Winner of the Pulitzer Prize

Mesmerizing, enthralling book. I read it because the movie, Oppenheimer, was based on this book. The book is 591 pages long. It took me almost 6 weeks to read it. The movie follows the book closely, but the book is so much more detailed (of course) and helps to explain much of what was going on in the movie.

Without J. Robert Oppenheimer, I don’t think the Atomic Bomb would have been built. He organized the building of it from start to finish, even picking the location of Los Alamos, the place in New Mexico where he managed 1000 people and got it done, from inception to use, in 2 years (1943 to 1945). He was an amazing man. This book covers his entire life. From privileged youth to painful death from throat cancer. He was born April 22, 1904, to Jewish immigrant father and artist mother, in New York, NY. He died at the age of 62 on February 18, 1967, in Princeton, NJ.

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Abroad in Japan

by Chris Broad, 2023

I LOVED this book! It’s funny and informative! Written by a young British man who went to Japan in 2012 at the age of 22 to teach English through the JET program. He ended up spending 10 years there (and maybe is still there), becoming a YouTube sensation, and loving Japan. He takes you with him on his journey and it is a pleasure. When he first arrives, he doesn’t know the language or the culture. He gets assigned to Sakata, a small town and growing smaller, on the northwestern coast of the main island of Japan. His apartment is tiny but he grows to love it. He spends three years in Sakata and during those three years, learns the very difficult language, and learns to love the people and the food. He starts to get fat. He also smokes and drinks a lot! That is what the first three years seemed to be about after the school day; eating, drinking, and smoking. The smoking part changes from being acceptable to unacceptable after about 5 years of being there – he describes how every bar, and there are a lot of bars, were full of cigarette smoke the first few years he lived there. Then, around 2018, it was forbidden to smoke in all but a few Izakaya’s. I think because of the Olympics.

After teaching for 3 years, he had to make a decision on whether to continue teaching or do something else. He had been dabbling with filming and had filmed a few touristy things about Japan that had been pretty successful, like McDonald’s chocolate fries. He decided to become a professional YouTuber. His channel, Abroad in Japan, is very, very successful. He has done documentaries: A week with Japan’s biggest rock star (Hyde); An in-depth look at Fukushima, the nuclear disaster; Why Kyoto’s traditional homes (machiya) are going extinct. He also did one on Ken Watanabe, the actor, and how he transformed a city (Kessenuma) devastated by the tsunami.

When he experienced his first real earthquake, in March of 2022, he was filled with so much fear and anxiety, he thought he would have to leave Japan, but he decided to stay. He ends the book with an epilogue that is poignant. He was always anxious and going to Japan caused him to have horrible panic attacks. He is so glad he didn’t let the fear and anxiety keep him from going to Japan. He’s gone from being fearful and anxious to asking himself, “If I walk way, will I live to regret this?”

He has come to treasure the quiet, beautiful moments of living in Japan – snow falling outside the windows while he eats his yakitori with his best friend, Natsuki; watching the sea after a long days work.

He climbed Mt. Fuji with a British friend, who was wearing shorts, and they almost froze to death, but they did it – once was enough.

He biked across Japan and decided to do all the writing and editing and promised to upload a video a day, not realizing that was impossible. He got lots of negative comments when he didn’t post every day and it really bothered him. He ended up taking a year to edit and post all the videos, but guess what, then the pandemic hit and they were such a hit because people were all stuck at home and with Chris’s videos, they were able to get out and see Japan. It ended up being a blessing, and a good thing that he didn’t give up.

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Band of Sisters

by Lauren Willig, 2021

Pat loaned this book to me. It was about the Smith College Relief Unit, a group of American women, graduates of Smith College, who volunteered in WWI to help French villagers devastated by the Germans (1917 – 1919, in villages near the Somme). They had no idea what they were getting into, but they made a difference. They were as close to the front lines as you could get. They came and lived among the villagers, coaxing them out, getting them fed, clean water, teaching the children how to play again, doctoring them, getting them into better shelters, helping them to farm again, chickens, cows, goats. On and on. There were personality clashes and misunderstandings and class differences. There were near death experiences. But through it all, they worked their tales off and helped these French villagers. Then, when all was going well and they had made it through the winter and were busy with the villagers, planting fields, the Germans pushed through and the entire region, every single village, was evacuated and bombed to pieces. But, they helped evacuate every single village and then they worked in Paris at the hospitals and the canteens, helping the wounded soldiers. When the war was finally over, they went back to their original village, Grecourt, and started rebuilding again. The author based almost every occurrence in the book on real-life occurrences she read from letters written by the girls back to loved ones in the States. Good book. Amazing women. Working so hard just to help others. Makes me think of what we could do if we really put our minds to helping the poor. They helped them to help themselves. They gave them hope and a future. We wouldn’t have to worry about bombing raids either. Oh Lord, forgive us. We turn a blind eye to your hurting people. Forgive us, Lord Jesus. Teach us how to help, how to really help. I pray in your name, Amen.

Remarkably Bright Creatures

by Shelby Van Pelt, 2022

A very fun novel! This book is the last book selected for the 2023-2024 Old Town Library Book Club. I loved the characters: Tova, an elderly Swedish lady who cleans the aquarium; Marcellus, a remarkably bright Giant Pacific Octopus who lives in the aquarium and knows what happened to Erik, Tova’s son who disappeared into the sea 18 years ago and was never found; Cameron, a handsome young man looking for his father, abandoned by his druggie mother; Ethan, a Scottish grocery store owner in love with Tova; Avery, young and beautiful single mom, becoming Cameron’s love. I also loved the setting: the Pacific Northwest in a town called Sowell Bay near the Puget Sound. I loved the ending, too. Tova finds out that Cameron is her grandson. She discovers this because of the clues Marcellus leaves her. He escapes his tank at night and puts things in places where only Tova will find them, Cameron’s driver’s license, and the class ring of her deceased son, Erik.

It was a wonderful diversion, reading this book while working on the clean-out of Mom’s home. A very good escape. Thank you, Shelby Van Pelt. You are an excellent writer! Wonderful first novel!

Returning: A Spiritual Journey

by Dan Wakefield, 1984, 1985, 1988

Learned about this book from the New York Times Morning Report (I think) talking about Dan Wakefield and his books on the day he died in March 2024 at age 91. He was born in Indianapolis in 1932 and grew up an only child, to unhappily married parents. His mother often cried. But, they took him to church and he grew up a Protestant and a boy scout and he had a very beautiful experience of Jesus as a child. He loved his Sunday School teacher and loved praying and saying the 23rd Psalm in his mind. He was close to God.

At the age of 48, he wakes up screaming in pain in Hollywood.

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The Fearless Mind

by Dr. Craig L. Manning, 2009, 2017

Adam sent me this book. Danette read it and liked it. It’s by a tennis player turned sports psychologist consultant. It’s like a thesis on how to control your mind, mainly, in order to become a peak performer. I like how he talks about thinking about the past is guilt and thinking about the future is fear. We need to live in the moment. We need to control the things we can control – our actions and thoughts. We need to set achievable objectives and goals each day. Then, at the end of the day, celebrate what we achieved. Don’t dwell on the mistakes of the past and don’t worry about the future. Live in the moment. I’ve been trying to do that for a decade now.

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Naomi Osaka: Her Journey to Finding Her Power and Her Voice

by Ben Rothenberg, 2024

Very detailed biography on tennis player, Naomi Osaka. I happened to see it on the shelf at the library and grabbed it. It answered all my questions about Naomi – why is her last name Osaka when it’s her mother who is Japanese? Why does she play for Japan? Why did she fire her coach, Sascha Bajin? It all makes sense now.

Her father is black and Haitian, Leonard Maxime Francois. He moved to Brooklyn when he was in his teens and became a naturalized American citizen. He moved to Japan after going there with a Japanese friend and liking it so much. Her mother is Japanese, daughter and granddaughter of Japanese fishermen from Hokkaido. Her mother and father fell in love in Japan. Her father moved from NYC to Japan at the advice of some friends. They had to elope because it was unacceptable to be an interracial couple in Japan. They lived in Osaka, Japan, which also happens to be Naomi’s mother’s last name. When they had Naomi’s big sister, Mari, on April 3, 1996, they decided to give her the Osaka name as her last name, to lessen the “consternation” a foreign name would cause for them in Japan. Naomi was born on October 16, 1997. When Naomi was 3 and her sister was 5, their father watched Venus and Serena playing in the doubles final at the 1999 French Open. He decided then and there that they would follow in their footsteps. He started them playing tennis at 3 and 5, and he was their coach. He followed the pattern Richard Williams used with Venus and Serena. It was hard to find tennis opportunities in Japan, so they moved to NYC in spring of 2001, when Naomi was 3. When the winters in NYC made it hard to practice, he moved them to Florida. Their mother, Tamaki, was the breadwinner, and she had a good job in NYC but left it in order to stay with her daughters and husband. She worked 2 jobs much of Naomi’s life, trying to support the family. They were almost evicted once in Florida, but Naomi managed to win a tournament in California and made $10,000, enough to pay their rent and expenses and keep them from being evicted.

When they were going to school in NYC at a very young age, their teacher told their Mom that speaking Japanese in the home was keeping them from learning English. From that moment on, they had to stop speaking Japanese and were only allowed to speak English. That’s why Naomi can’t speak Japanese and sounds like an American.

Why does she play for Japan? Honestly, she thinks of herself as Japanese. That is where she was born. Her mother is Japanese. Her mannerisms are Japanese. They also offered her more lucrative sponsors than the USA, but it is pretty clear she considers herself Japanese and is really bummed that she can’t speak the language any longer. She worked hard during off-seasons at first, trying to relearn the language.

Why did she fire Sascha Bajin? This one is hard to say, but I think he may have broken her heart. She accused him of having a relationship with another WTA player, which he denied one day and admitted to her the next day. I think she may have been in love with him and he broke her heart.

As far as her meltdown and mental weakness, asking to be excused from press conferences at the French Open, I think she had every right to do so. She was asked some of the most pointed and personal questions, especially after firing Bajin, and was treated terribly by some journalists looking to hurt her because of her race, her gender, her monetary success, etc. Some really ugly things were said about her. She was always a sweetheart and tried to answer all of the questions asked of her. I would have cracked up long before she did. She didn’t really crack up, she just needed to take some breaks.

Now, she is back on tour after having her baby, Shai. She re-hired Wim Fissette, her long-term coach after Bajin, with whom she won 2 more majors. She hired him away from Qinwen Zheng, young Chinese tennis sensation.

I also learned a lot about Serena, because Serena is Naomi’s idol–she loves her! So much involved in the 2018 US Open and reporters wanted her to talk bad about Serena and she never, ever would. She loves her, respects her, idolizes her. What I learned about Serena is that Wayne is correct about her. She is a very, very mean person. She said that men on the ATP get away with what she did (threaten line judges and umps – really ugly threats – unbelievably ugly) but that is simply not true. Serena is mean, and has a huge chip on her shoulder, but that being said, there were some terrible things that happened to her and Venus early on. Also, being a tennis superstar is not easy – some of the most intensely scrutinized, criticized athletes in the world.

Wayne’s idea that the pressure is what finally got to Naomi because she is ultra-shy and introverted, is right on. She said she really only knew about 5 people her whole life – her family – and knowing what to say and not to say to others, how to act, how to be socially, was/is a real trial for her.

An excellent book. I’m very glad I read it. I really should buy it – I book-marked many, many pages. Excellent writer!

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Beartown

Fredrik Backman, 2016

I learned about this book from his Instagram posts. There are so many people who love Beartown and send him pictures of hockey jerseys with #16 and Ovich on them. I was intrigued because I love everything he’s written, so I borrowed it from the library. Well, it’s not my favorite book of his. There are two more books after Beartown in the trilogy: ‘Us Against You,’ and ‘The Winners.’

It’s very, very intense. A hockey town in Sweden called Beartown that live, eat, breathe hockey. They have a star player, Kevin, son of the richest couple in town who sponsor the hockey team. The team wins the semi-final, Kevin has a party at his home, rapes the GM’s daughter, Maya. Maya tells no one until 5 days later when she can’t hold it in any longer. She tells her parents, wonderful Peter and Kira, and they blow up. Call the police, the police take Kevin off the bus right before the final. The town blows up at the family. Much, much drama ensues. There are some real heroes on the team, but the rest are just thugs.

The heroes are, first and foremost, Amat. He’s a poor one whose mother, Fatima, raised him to always do the right thing. He gets promoted to the team when they see how hard he works and how fast he can skate. He’s the reason they won the semi-final. He loves Maya, the girl who got raped. He knows the truth because he went up to Kevin’s room and saw it happening. Against all the money and promises of Kevin’s dad, Amat tells the town the truth. He almost gets beaten to death, but Bobo, the big mean kid who started out being the worst towards him, ends up defending Amat. That’s the best part – they end up friends. There’s also Benji, the best one on the team, #16 – Ovich, who is Kevin’s life-long friend and the reason Kevin plays so well. Benji knows the truth, too. He refused to take part in the evening’s partying when he saw what direction it was going, and he left the party. He saw Maya out in the forest on her way home – scared, hurt, and traumatized. He was going to help her but recognized her fear. He let her be, but knows the truth, even though he never rats on Kevin, just keeps it a secret. He also has a secret he has kept from everyone – that he is gay.

The book is very, very dramatic. The characters and dialogue and settings are so well-drawn. He’s such a good writer, but I had a hard time with this one. Lots of hockey violence and then evil thoughts and actions by some of the players and parents and children, etc. In the end, the good outweighs the bad, but it was really bad. His style is sort of irritating in this book, too. Almost all of the book involves telling a bit of the future but not all of it. There is a lot of philosophizing, too, about hockey, parenting, small town mentality.

My favorite part of the book is the poem a nurse spoke to Fatima when she had Amat, and the scrap of paper on which she wrote the words, and which he has kept for 16 years:

“If you are honest, people may deceive you. Be honest anyway.

“If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfishness. Be kind anyway.

“All the good you do today will be forgotten by others tomorrow.

“Do good anyway.”

Amat truly lived those words. That’s the best part of the book – Amat.

The Ideal Team Player

by Patrick Lencioni, 2016

Self-help, business-help book on how to be an ideal team player and find and cultivate ideal team players. Wish I’d known this when I was working! We sure got fooled a number of times. As I look back, I can see that if we’d had this model – humble, hungry, and [people] smart – we could have avoided some really unfortunate hires. Adam recommended this book to me. He heard about it from his ‘little friend’ he met at the Christmas Light luncheon.

‘Humble’ – giving credit where credit is due, not caring about ‘status,’ putting others before one’s self. “Humility isn’t thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less.” C.S. Lewis. At the end of the book, he writes that Jesus is the most compelling example of humility and he hopes people see that humility is the greatest gift and the divine origins of that gift.

‘Hungry’ is the desire to work as shown by being self-motivated, having a healthy work ethic, willing to put in extra time and go the extra mile when it is necessary to get the job done well.

‘Smart’ refers to people-smarts. A person with people-smarts recognizes and praises others, understands how their words and actions affects others and makes adjustments as necessary, listens well to others, and engages others.

It’s fun to think about people I’ve worked with and for and determine what they were lacking in one of these three areas. Also, it’s fun to think about the professional tennis players and see who is an ideal team player. So few of them have all three traits. It’s sobering to think about myself and see where I am lacking.

Adam is an ideal team player. He is truly humble, hungry, and smart. I’m so proud of him! He certainly didn’t get those traits from me!

There are questions to use in the interview process to try and find out if the candidate is humble, hungry, and smart. These are very helpful. For humility, look for genuinely complimenting others, being able to admit mistakes, willing to take on grunt work, sharing credit, acknowledging weaknesses, and readily offering and receiving apologies. For hungry, look for a feeling of personal responsibility for the mission, being willing to contribute after-hours, being willing to do tedious or challenging work.

For smart, look for interactions that show they are aware of others’ feelings, show empathy, show interest in other people’s lives, listen attentively to others, and have an awareness of how their words and actions may affect others and adjusting them accordingly.

Excellent book – told in the style of a novel using an example of a construction company having to change leadership and then hire a bunch of people for two huge projects. Good dialogue and likable characters make the ideas real.

The Midnight Library

by Matt Haig, 2020

Fun book! This was one of the Old Town Library Book Club’s selections for 2023-2024, for February 2024. It’s about a young British girl, Nora Seed, who is full of regrets and decides to kill herself by taking all of her anti-depressants. She wakes up in the Midnight Library with Mrs. Elm, her old school librarian. She gets to choose different lives, re-living her regrets. She sees what happens when she chooses to be an Olympic swimmer, a glaciologist, a rock star, marry Dan who wants to own a pub, go to Australia with her friend, say yes to coffee with Ash, and even keep her kitty inside rather than let it go outside. Once she has seen where each of those take her, she truly wants to live, and she wants to live the life she had. She wakes up vomiting as the Midnight Library crashes and burns, and she loves her life and sees how important her “little” life is – to the boy she teaches piano, to her elderly next door neighbor, to her brother, etc.

It’s a good book. It considers there might be a God – maybe Mrs. Elm is God, but she isn’t as all-powerful and all-loving and all-knowing as our one True God. But at least it gives those who feel their life is meaningless the idea that their life matters – that each loving kindness they express is important. It also shows the importance of decisions. But, it makes decisions seem all-important, when really we cannot control anything, only how we humbly love our neighbor and we can’t do that without the power of the Holy Spirit in us. Come, Lord Jesus, come!

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Lessons in Chemistry

by Bonnie Garmus, 2022

I loved this book! It was recommended by Jan M. and Marney K. It was an engrossing novel about 1960’s America, a lady chemist named Elizabeth Zott, who faces sexual harassment, assaults, and prejudice at every turn. She meets the love of her life, Calvin Evans, but refuses to marry him because she doesn’t want his fame to color her research progress. He dies tragically, but leaves her with a present, a baby girl named Mad. This little family, including the amazing dog named Six Thirty, and a kind-hearted, loving neighbor named Harriet Sloane, are so delightful. They are their own selves. They do not become what others think they should be.

Elizabeth ends up becoming famous because she captures the 1960’s housewives hearts teaching cooking as a chemist would. She explains to them all the different chemical reactions. She calls salt Sodium Chloride. She refuses to wear tight dresses and mix cocktails for the man of the house. She wears a lab coat and trousers. She is beautiful, but never smiles. She does not believe in God because her father was a horrible, horrible man who used God to make money and spread fear. Her Mom was only looking for the next man to take care of her. Calvin Evans, the love of her life, was also hurt deeply by religion – he grew up in the All Saints Boys Home. Because of the lies of the bishop who was assigned to the home, he was stuck there his whole childhood. He never learned the truth.

A really, really good story. Very, very likeable characters – Elizabeth, Mad (Madeline), Six Thirty, Harriet. There is a protestant minister who befriends Mad and then Elizabeth, but he also doesn’t believe in God. Harriet is a devout Catholic and she loves deeply and purely and prays and ends up being the rock for this little family.

Fantastic book!

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The Mermaid Chair

by Sue Monk Kidd, 2005

Got this book out of the little free library in front of Poppie’s house. It’s by the author of The Secret Life of Bees. The story starts when an artist/mother/wife gets called to her childhood home on an island off the coast of South Carolina by a friend of her mother’s. Her mother just cut off her finger, on purpose. So Jessie goes home and immediately falls in love with a monk, Brother Thomas. They have an affair. Her mother cuts off another finger. Jessie’s loving husband comes to the island and is crushed to find out his wife is in love with another man. He leaves in a rage. Jessie stays but between caring for her mother and getting the true story of how her father died – it wasn’t the pipe she gave him for father’s day that sparked a fire and caused his boat to explode – it was that he had a dread disease – Pick’s Disease. The disease is a form of dementia and you forget all of your loved ones. He begged his wife to let him kill himself with poison. She finally agreed. When the full story comes out, Jessie and her mom are finally healed. Jessie goes back to her wonderful husband, Hugh. Her mom can finally stop blaming herself for assisting her husband/Jessie’s dad in his wish to die before he lost his mind.

The setting is neat – a barrier island based on Bull Island but with tourists. Bull Island is uninhabited. The island in the book is called Egret Island and has lots of the same characteristics of Bull Island, the flora and fauna, etc. Would like to go to that part of the USA someday.

Okay book – didn’t really like the character of Jessie – not much sympathy for her, but in the end, she did the right thing. The monastery and the basis for the monastery were a fictitious Mermaid saint, and a Mermaid Chair that is in the monastery. That is where her father chose to die and be blessed by the monk – Father Dominic – to help his wife, a devout Catholic, accept better his suicide. Lots and lots of Mermaid stuff – sold in the stores, a Mermaid festival every year, Jessie painting mermaids, etc. But it was a far-fetched, strange part of the book – all this emphasis on mermaids.

The Covenant of Water

by Abraham Verghese, 2023

Beautiful novel by the author of Cutting for Stone, and The Tennis Partner. Marney told me about it. It is 715 pages long! It is set in southern India, spanning almost the entire 1900’s. It concerns a family that lives on a small estate called Parambil, near the ocean on the southwestern side of India, the Kerala state. A young girl, 12 years old, is forced to leave her mom and family and move to Parambil to marry a man older than her. He is a widow and has a young son named Jojo. He’s a good man. He lets her grow up in his household, learning how to cook from the older women, and as she grows up, she falls in love with her husband and cares deeply for Jojo. The tale includes tragedies because many people in this family die from drowning. It’s called the Condition. Jojo dies drowning after he falls from a tree into a small amount of water. It breaks their hearts. They have a daughter of their own, Baby Mol. When she is about 5, someone comes to the house and says, What’s the matter with her! They take her to a doctor and find out she is a Down’s Syndrome child, I think, although that is never specified. They never saw anything wrong with her and love her so much. She is a beloved member of the family. Then, years later, they have a son together, name him Philipose. Philipose grows up and tries to go to college but he cannot hear the professors. He finally has a hearing test and discovers he is almost deaf. He returns home to Parambil and marries Elsie, a beautiful artist. They have a premature baby named Ninan. They nurse him and care for him and he lives and becomes a very precocious little boy. He dies very, very tragically, falling from the top of the tree that Elsie had asked Philipose to cut down when they first were married. Philipose finally has it cut part way down years later when Ninan is a little boy. But he doesn’t have the tree totally cut down, only partially – and it leaves sharp spikes all the way from top to bottom. Little Ninan climbs up and falls and is impaled on one of these branches. Tragic, ugly death. It destroys Elsie and Philipose. They each blame each other and grow to hate one another. Elsie leaves. Philipose becomes addicted to opium.

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