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When You’re Ready: A Love Story

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by Kareem Rosser, 2025

Christie told me about this book. She read it and loved it. Kareem continues his life story. He meets and falls in love with a rich, white, beautiful girl named Lee Lee Jones. She was a horse-girl, participating in Eventing Competitions, which Kareem considered more difficult than Polo. Her family was wealthy, involved in the horse world in Pennsylvania, owning a horse farm, participating in fox hunts, with all the glitz and glamour of that wealthy world. But these two fall in love. Everything is going good until Kareem returns to Colorado State University and has a one-night stand with his former girlfriend, Lizzie. Lizzie finds out he was in a relationship with Lee Lee. Lizzie calls him on it and tells him he needs to let Lee Lee know. Kareem lets Lee Lee know and Lee Lee punishes him for what seems like years. First she breaks up with him, but then, they get back together but she doesn’t trust him; she makes him check in with her every day and night. He seems to have to apologize over and over again. I started not liking this girl, but he felt he deserved that treatment. They still had some good times, with an awful lot of drinking. He is not coping well with life, and tells her he needs to break up with her. He gets his life together but misses her terribly and they get back together again. That’s when the accident happens – Lee Lee is working a green horse on the exercise track at her home, and the horse hits an icy patch, trips, throws Lee Lee, then rolls and lands on Lee Lee’s head. Lee Lee was wearing a helmet but it still took many surgeries and months in the hospital and rehab. Lee Lee lives but was never the same. Kareem doesn’t know that she won’t bounce back completely, so is still devoted to her and leaves work promptly at 5:00 p.m. every night and drives an hour and a half to spend the evening with Lee Lee. He has no life except work, drive to Lee Lee, spend the evening with her. This goes on for 4 years. She gradually recovers to the point she can recognize him but she is child-like. When she first starts speaking again, she says “Fuck You, Bitch,” to everyone, including Kareem, her Mom, nurses, everyone. That eventually goes away and she becomes a sweet person, confined to a wheelchair, and dependent on her Mom (Evie) and other care-takers.

Kareem’s boss points him in the direction of his therapist. Kareem had tried a therapist who only prescribed ADHD drugs and Kareem almost became addicted to them. He quit them and stopped seeing that therapist but was still a mess inside. He describes his feelings. He has panic attacks, is full of anxiety, and is depressed. His boss, Joe, is a super nice guy. Kareem goes to see Joe’s therapist, Ellen Berman, and she helps him so much. She asks him to stop going to see Lee Lee every day. He can’t do that. She says, okay, leave 15 minutes early. He couldn’t do that. Okay, leave 10 minutes early. Her talk therapy saves him and he never stops loving Lee Lee, but he has a healthy life outside of Lee Lee. He meets Yolanda, a beautiful young lady who is more like him – not rich, not white, not privileged. But she’s a breath of fresh air. So is her family. She becomes the mother of their precious baby girl, Zara. And Kareem marries her. He brings both Yolanda and Zara out to meet Lee Lee and it’s a precious moment. He lets Lee Lee hold Zara and she says “Baby, Baby” over and over again.

Really good book. He calls it “creative non-fiction.” That means the events and time-line are based on real events but some have been compressed or adjusted. The characters are based on real life but some names have been changed. The conversations are not exact but evoke the character and spirit.

Ellen Berman, the therapist, talks to Kareem about ambiguous loss, which is a loss, but not a complete loss like death. The traumatic brain injury that Lee Lee Jones suffered was not fatal, but left her unlike her former self. Kareem was caught between despair and hope. Some examples of ambiguous loss are when someone is kidnapped, or MIA, or when someone gets Alzheimer’s, or has a drug addiction or severe depression.

The title of the book comes from Lee Lee’s mother, Evie. She and Kareem are having a discussion outside on the hood of his car after his visit with Lee Lee. She tells him it would be okay if he started dating again. He tells her he still loves Lee Lee. She says she understands that but tells him, “When you’re ready.”

After Zara is born, Kareem is describing the love he feels for his baby girl: “I’d thought I understood love. I thought that the love that I felt for my mom, my siblings, my grandma, Leslie, Lee Lee, Evie, Yolanda..I thought all that love covered pretty much every color in the emotional spectrum. And that I was lucky to have it in my life.

“But this feeling? This feeling that I had for this tiny, silly, sweet thing? This wide-eyed child? This soft little mystery that I held in my arms?

“It was singular. It was incomparable. It was bigger than anything I’d ever felt. And I knew, right then and there, that I would spend my lifetime trying to be a good enough father to my daughter. I knew that there would never be anything more important or more valuable in my life.”

Here are a few paragraphs near the end of the book. He is at Yolanda’s family home in New Jersey, and both their large families are together for Christmas. Kareem is going to surprise-propose to Yolanda:

“”Yolanda,” I said. “When I was growing up, I didn’t think that love could really last. I never really believed that love could be a forever thing. And that’s because I didn’t think that the people I loved would ever be able to stay.

“”But then” –I smiled at her, and she smiled right back at me, tremulous and happy. “Then I met you. And you showed me that there was another kind of love. A real love. A true and deep and rooted thing that might change and grow over time but would never completely disappear. You gave me a safe place to heal. You saw me through some of my darkest times, and you brought me so much light.” I looked at Zara. “We created this amazing daughter together. And all I want is to spend the rest of my life with you both.””

Here are a few sweet closing words, when they are visiting Lee Lee and Lee Lee is holding Zara:

“I may have created more space between us, but I will never leave Lee Lee behind. I will never permanently step away. I think she still sees me as her soul mate and other half. And honestly, so do I. Our relationship necessarily changed, but it did not end. There was no closure.

“Instead, there was a metamorphosis. For both of us…

…”Lee Lee changed me.

Yolanda changed me.

Zara changed me.

Love changed me.

Because true love is never static; I renews and transfigures, it morphs and grows and fills the silence and the empty, broken places. It takes on whatever shape we need it to become.”

Such a special young man! I never met him personally, but when he applied for scholarships at CSU, I read his scholarship application and was utterly captivated by his story. A poor, black child growing up in the Bottom, which sounds like a ghetto of Philadelphia. His mom a drug addict, as was his grandma. His best friend shot to death. His older brothers in prison. Before that, though, his older brothers discover the “Work to Ride” program – a horse barn in Philadelphia that teaches poor children how to ride horses. Kareem comes to CSU as a Polo player and leads CSU to a national title in Polo. And that story is in his book, Crossing the Line, which is also an excellent book.

The Colorado River: Chasing Water

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by Pete McBride, 2024

Coffee table-sized book full of pictures and information on the Colorado River from where it starts in our Rocky Mountains to where it peters out in the desert. It’s heartbreaking, though, because the Colorado River used to be a powerful river that flowed all the way to the Gulf of California in Mexico and now it peters out 100 miles away and what is left is nothing but cracked, dry, trash-strewn desert. There used to be estuaries filled with water, trees, birds. The future is bleak, too: As I write this on May 2, 2026, Flaming Gorge Reservoir in Wyoming is releasing water into the Green River to keep the water levels high enough in Lake Powell to generate electricity. We are coming off a very low snowpack winter in Colorado – one of the worst in recorded history.

I learned from this book that Saudi Arabia owns many of the alfalfa farms in California that use Colorado River water for irrigation. “Apparently growing and exporting forage crops from land irrigated with Colorado River water is more economical than producing them in the Middle East.”

In 2014, the BLM released a “pulse flow” of water for eight weeks that allowed the Colorado River to, once again, reach the Gulf of California. But it hasn’t since.

The Central Arizona Project (CAP) was fought for long and hard by Arizona. It was finally approved in 1968, construction started in 1973 and opened in 1993. In 2023, though, the lower Colorado River Basin had to initiate shortage restrictions. There is a Taiwan Semiconductor plant north of Phoenix that uses Colorado River water. Phoenix allows its gray water to cool “America’s largest nuclear power plant, the Palo Verde Generating Station.” That nuclear power plant is now ringed with solar panel farms and the electricity they generate for Arizona and California is cheaper than the hydroelectric electricity from the dams on the river.

The Salton Sea has shrunk and is full of agricultural wastewater. The dust along the edges is toxic and is causing health problems and problems for wildlife when airborne.

“In the fall of 2023, though, in an effort to conserve water, the state of Arizona terminated state land leases that had given Saudi-owned farms nearly unfettered access to pumping groundwater for alfalfa production.”

We destroyed a water paradise and built cities and farms in the desert, where they should never have been. What will happen now that there is hardly any water in our mountains to feed this monster?

Excellent book, Pete McBride! I do wish it came in a smaller format – it is full of much-needed information and pictures – but the large size is cumbersome.

A Fine Romance: Falling in love with the English Countryside

by Susan Branch, 2013

Neighbor Sara recommended this book. I started reading it soon after we sent Jojo to heaven and it was the perfect escape. She writes about a trip she and her beloved husband, Joe, made across the Atlantic from Martha’s Vineyard to England and back on the Queen Mary 2 (not a “cruise,” but a “crossing”). They went in May and June of 2012. They spent 2 months walking around England, visiting old homes and gardens, pubs and tea rooms, quaint country inns. The book is handwritten, as if it were her diary. It’s full of actual photos and also her drawings of all the quaint and charming things. She’s quite an artist! And she and her husband are chefs, too. She starts the book in the 1980’s describing how she met Joe, a man 5 years her junior, when she was recovering from a heartbreak and had sworn off men forever. She was in her 30’s. She was sitting at a bar with a friend, and Joe was there, too. They started chatting and hit it off from the start. She didn’t think she was going to end up romantically involved with him, but he wooed her and won her heart. He loved her at first sight.

Fast forward from the 1980’s to 2012: They decided to take this trip to England in their 60’s. It was a dream of theirs for a very, very long time. They had been there before but this time, Joe’s idea was to cross the Atlantic by ship and spend 2 whole months in the English countryside.

Although there was lots and lots of rainy days, they made the best of it. Once, they decided to board a small ferry and spend the rainy day on it. They chatted with the ferry boat captain and were charmed by him and by the countryside, even though it was pouring down rain.

They visited Beatrix Potter’s home and garden. Susan Branch absolutely loves all things Beatrix Potter, so it meant the world to her to see where she lived. Beatrix Potter donated her home and garden, and many farms and acres she owned (14 working farms and another 4,000 acres of the Lake District), to The National Trust, in order to keep them forever free from development and open to the public. They visited William Morris’s home (an actual manor named Kelmscott). They visited Jane Austen’s home. They were in the Peak District, the Lake District, and Yorkshire Dales.

She also describes “Public Footpaths.” They are all over England, some 100 miles long, all throughout the countryside. “It is possible to walk across England, stopping along the way at pubs and bed and breakfasts, making every day an adventure. You can find maps to these walk-routes at local shops in every region. We use the “OS Explorer Maps.” The paths are marked; you simply walk down an alley in any village, and right out of town, amongst farm animals – into serendipity; you never know what you will find.”

She describes so many wonderful, old, beautiful, quaint, flowery and green places. She provides maps and recipes: Pimm’s Cup (a gin drink her husband loves), Sticky Toffee Pudding, Hot Milk Cake, etc.)

She provides lists of her favorite books and movies set in England.

They rented a car and drove in England – that was the only thing that sounded challenging and nerve-wracking. I think having a tour that provides all the driving would be the way for us to go. Driving on the wrong side of the road and on the wrong side of the car – just too much!

This book was a delight! Thank you, Sara, for telling me about it! Thank you, Susan Branch, for sharing your love of England so charmingly with us!

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The Whole-Brain Child

by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D., 2011

Danette recommended this book. It’s from a podcast that she and Adam listen to. They already own the book. They’re using the concepts as they raise Eliya. When she falls down and gets hurt and cries, they say, “That must have hurt,” rather than, “You’re okay.” I realized how often I say “You’re okay” when a child gets hurt – “you’re okay, you’re okay.” That totally negates their feelings and probably confuses the hell out of them, because they are not okay. This book is all about integrating the child’s brain: Left with Right, Upstairs with Downstairs, Memories, Me with We. Naming their pain, or their feeling, and then, once they are heard and understood, moving on to the teachable moment, or whatever can help them integrate. Good stuff, but not easy or intrinsic. I would need to review the book again and again until I got it down.

Also, I read this book immediately after reading Cobalt Red, in which is described children as young as 6 working in open-pit Cobalt mines from dawn to dusk. And young mothers with infants strapped to their backs, their heads lolling back and forth, as their mothers dig all day in the hot sun for cobalt. The contrast between our first world country, wanting to optimize our children’s brains to the ‘nth’ degree; while across the ocean in Africa, children’s brains and bodies are traumatized daily with so much brutality, oppression and injustice.

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Cobalt Red: How the Blood of the Congo Powers Our Lives

by Siddharth Kara, 2023

Adam suggested this book. It’s about mining for cobalt in the Congo. It is unbelievably heart-breaking. The injustice, the oppression, the evil that is taking place is so awful. I had no idea. China and the major companies that use lithium-ion batteries, of which cobalt is one of the major ingredients, must stop this and re-build, renew, save these poor people. They work all day in the most brutal, horrible conditions, in order to earn a measly $1/day. They work in tunnels and when the tunnels collapse, they are buried alive. No one hears about it because no one can even check things out; armed men patrol all of the mines and the depots where cobalt is sold. Up until the election of Felix Tshisekedi in 2019, all of the African leaders after independence from King Leopold II of Belgium, were just as evil and exploited the people for their own gain. These were Mobutu Sese Seko (1965-1997), Laurent-Desire Kabila (1997-2001), Joseph Kabila (Laurent’s son) (2001-2019). It is hopeful that Felix Tshisekedi is working to better the conditions for his poor, exploited people.

Young mothers with infants strapped to their backs work the mines all day, for less than a dollar a day. They and their babies breathe in the toxic dust. Young girls and boys also work in the mines because their families can no longer afford the $6 a month to pay for their educations. This is after the mining companies force the families to move out of their villages, then cut down all the trees, and then build huge open-pit mines.

It is an outrage. Praying to God for His justice to roll down like waters, His righteousness like an ever-flowing stream. God please save these poor people, these poor oppressed people.

The companies like Tesla, Apple, Samsung, Daimler all have statements that say they do not use cobalt mined by children, but what this book shows (because this author took the time to go investigate at risk of his own life), there is no way you can say that you are using cobalt that was not mined by children. All of the cobalt gets into the bottom of the supply chain and is mixed together. And, this mining by children and adults, which is called artisanal mining is everywhere in the Congo. Thousands upon thousands of Congolese working in the most hellish conditions from dawn to dusk, for the tiniest bit of money. The mining kills them. This must stop! China and the rich companies need to give these people schools and free education for all of the children, hospitals and clinics, clean water, electricity, sewers, parks, trees, gardens, clean up their water and their air, give the miners safety equipment, reinforce the tunnels, pump in air so they can breathe, on and on and on. It is an absolute outrage that this is happening! God, please make it stop! Help these poor, poor people, especially the children!

From World Vision’s website – 10 worst countries to be a child:

Democratic Republic of the Congo (DRC)

In the eastern DRC, spikes in violence are a continual threat, especially against children. The United Nations reports that children are being recruited and armed, which is a grave violation of international law. In South Kivu, thousands have been displaced, and millions of children face increased risks of exploitation, trauma, hunger, and disease outbreaks. The ongoing challenges include:

  • Over 15 million children live in instability.
  • A deadly cholera epidemic has spread across six provinces, with more than 18,000 cases and 364 deaths reported since January 2025.
  • Flooding and unsafe water increase the threat of illness
  • In mining provinces like Lualaba and Haut-Katanga, child labor is widespread. Tens of thousands of children work in cobalt and copper extraction.
A young girl sits curled up with her head down in front of a pile of sorted materials and rocks on the edge of mud and water.
*Kamia, who is believed to be age 6 or 7, works in one of the mines in the DRC. (© 2025 World Vision/photo by Tatiana Ballay)

In towns like Kakanda, children as young as 6 work to support their families by selling food on the streets, carrying water, or caring for younger siblings. Children like the young girl shown above dig through toxic rubble with their bare hands, hoping to earn enough for a meal. Without safety gear, they risk injury, illness, or even death. Eleven-year-old Chantal* (not pictured) began working in the mines at age 9 after her father died. “I haven’t been to school in three months,” says Chantal*, who cooks and cleans for her family instead of attending class. “Sometimes I was so tired I’d fall asleep on the ground, right among the rocks,” she says.

Though Congolese law prohibits underage labor in mining, extreme poverty forces many families to rely on income from their children. Most earn less than $2 a day.

*Names changed to protect identity

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A Walk in the Park: The True Story of a Spectacular Misadventure in the Grand Canyon

by Kevin Fedarko, 2024

Adam recommended this book. It’s by the author of The Emerald Mile, the book about Kenton Grua’s fastest run down the Colorado in 1983 in a wooden dory named after a stand of Redwood trees that were partially clear-cut. That was an excellent book. This one is even better. Kevin Fedarko’s writing is honest, humble, and the details he provides make you feel like you are there. This book is a great work of art, like the canyon itself. He and his friend and photographer/journalist, Pete McBride, decide to do a “through-hike” of the Grand Canyon, which is about a 750-mile slog through dangerous no-man’s lands, along the rim, half-way up the sides of the canyon, sometimes along the river, sometimes on the south rim, other times on the north rim, up and down slot canyons, scrambling under Tamarisks, in extreme heat, extreme cold.

The first leg they do is “off the couch” and they last 6 days and go home in shame, about dead. They didn’t bother to train. Kevin didn’t bother to open any of the boxes of supplies that were shipped to them. They brought all of the boxes unopened and when they got to their remote starting point, they opened them and haphazardly packed what they thought they would want/need. They ended up with packs that weighed 58 lbs. The experts they were tagging along with were very kind but very leery. After 6 days of unbelievable hardship, they had to be rescued, and the 4 experts had to make up lots of time to stay on track for their own through-hike. Kevin and Pete were never going back again, but these experts had friends that swooped in, showed Kevin and Pete how to do this, and then went with them for the next leg. That was a completely different experience. Kevin and Pete had been humbled and they were much better prepared this time.

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Theo of Golden

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by Allen Levi, 2023

Ben and Lola gave this book to Wayne for me to read when he was over there telling them about the sidewalk replacement that was going to happen. They both loved this book and wanted me to read it. They said it was “uplifting” and “heartwarming.” I loved it! It was uplifting and heartwarming!

It’s about an 87 year-old man named Theo who moves to Golden, a university town by the Oxbow River in America’s southeast. He is a mystery. He loves good coffee and there is a coffee shop near his hotel called The Chalice. On the walls of this coffee shop are hand-drawn portraits of customers – 92 of them – that are incredible; the way the artist was able to render emotions in their eyes and faces. Theo marvels at them, and the low price of each, only $125, and the fact that they aren’t flying off the walls. He works with Shep, the owner of the coffee shop, and he begins purchasing the portraits and writing letters to the subjects, one-by-one, and meeting them at the fountain, on a bench, ‘he is the extraordinarily handsome older gentleman with a green flat cap.”

Theo is very loving and kind. He befriends all of the people he meets, and helps them out. It seems money is no object for him. He moves from the hotel to a beautiful 3rd floor apartment in the Ponder Building. I love the description of this beautiful apartment. Theo has no trouble walking up 3 flights of stairs to get to it. He ends up spending a year in this apartment, becoming friends with many people.

Asher – the artist who draws the portraits. He is a kind and loving man to all. Asher’s niece, Minnette, whose father is a brute – all he cares about is money. Minnette can never please her father, but Asher is her uncle and he shows her what love is. Minnette’s portrait is the first portrait Theo purchases and the first person he writes to and invites to meet him on the bench at the fountain. Minnette and her husband decide to come to the fountain together, because, honestly, both she and her husband are suspicious. They get separated and Minnette goes ahead and meets with Theo on her own. Her husband sees them talking together and watches from a distance. All is well and they become beloved friends of Theo’s, and Theo’s kindness changes them. This story is repeated with each portrait recipient. Each one is invited to come and meet Theo and receive a gift. There is Ellen – the homeless woman who rides her bike around town and sometimes sleeps at the Mission, and sometimes sleeps who knows where. There is Tony – the bookseller, who owns a messy book store and is a smart-alec. There is Simone, a brilliant cellist who walks to class with his cello on his back. There is Kendrick and his daughter Lamisha. Lamisha is severely injured and her mother (Kendrick’s wife) is killed when another driver falls asleep at the wheel and runs into them. Kendrick is a night janitor. Lamisha is often undergoing surgery on her leg and Kendrick and his mother take turns being with her – Kendrick during the day, his mother during the night. Sometimes they stay in the hospital so they are always there with Lamisha. When Theo finds out the story, he hires the best doctor in the world to take over the care of Lamisha. He pays for everything. Then, the driver, who has been in jail for a year, comes to trial, and Kendrick and Lamisha find out his story – it breaks their hearts and Kendrick tells Theo about it. The driver was an immigrant from Guatemala who had worked as a bricklayer for 14 years. He got deported but comes right back – why? Because he has a wife and little girl he loves and he must get back to them. He drives all night, falls asleep at the wheel and kills Kendrick’s wife and injures Lamisha, Kendrick’s daughter. They can see by his tears and his hands in prayer that he is deeply, deeply sorry. After Kendrick talks to Theo, Kendrick tells the judge and his attorney (Minnette’s husband), that he feels this man has already done enough time. It’s a beautiful part of the story – the love and forgiveness from one to another–all coming about through Theo’s love and care for them.

Everyone wonders who Theo is – no last name, all they know is he’s from Portugal originally. Only one person knows him and his story – that is James Ponder, the owner of the Ponder Building where he has his office and where he allows Theo to rent the beautiful, charming 3rd floor apartment.

In the end, we find out the story of Theo and why he came to Golden. He fell in love with Asher’s mother when they were both young artists living in Spain. He loves her but he is intent on his success and lets her go. She returns to Golden and marries immediately and has a little boy, Asher, and then another child, Pearce (the money-hungry father of Minnette). It turns out, Gammy (Asher’s mother) got pregnant. Asher is Theo’s son. Theo reveals all of this in a long letter to Asher that Asher is given to read by James Ponder. James Ponder is Theo’s confidante. He knows all of the history, he knows why Theo came to Golden. He doesn’t tell a soul while Theo is alive. Theo dies tragically – he falls from the 3rd floor balcony in the middle of the night trying to scream at 3 assailants who are brutally beating both Ellen and then Simone who tried to help Ellen. Theo sees it all – and is trying to scream at them to “STOP, STOP, STOP!” The next thing we know he is a crumpled heap on the sidewalk and a young couple is horrified.

James Ponder reveals all to Theo’s son, Asher, and to the close friends of Theo’s. Theo is actually a famous artist, Zila, who has amassed a fortune and is renown for his generosity and benevolence. We do learn early on that Theo was in a loveless marriage (after Asher’s mother) to an alcoholic woman. They have a daughter, Tita, whom Theo absolutely adores – she is the light of his life. One day, the mother is driving while drunk, with Tita in the car, and has a wreck that kills them both. It takes literally years for Theo to recover. He recovers by walking, and finally by watching a sunset by a river. For the rest of his life, he finds a spot to watch the sunset by a river, every night. He also finds the Lord. This book is decidedly Christian. Theo is a good Christian man. He loves God and he loves others. It is wonderful to me that Ben and Lola wanted me to read this book and that they found it heart-warming and uplifting.

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My Broken Language

by Quiara Alegria Hudes, 2021

I got this book from a Little Free Library in the neighborhood. It is a memoir and won the Pulitzer Prize. I apologize I cannot figure out how to put the accent mark over the “i” in Alegria. Her mother is Puerto Rican (“Philly Rican”), one generation removed; her father is white, Jewish, hippy. She grew up in Philadelphia. Her Mom and Dad divorced when she was young (he was unfaithful to her mom), she lived mainly with her Mom in North Philly and visited her Dad in suburbia frequently at first, then less and less frequently. He married a white bitch named Sharon, who told Quiara on their wedding day, to stay out of the family pictures, “This is my day.” Quiara went away into the woods (it was an outdoor wedding near the farm at which they had been living) and she dealt with the hurt and shame by vowing solitude – the only safe way to be. “Solitude was reliably safe and enjoyable. The woods understood that, they had taught me well. I spent a long time visiting my old friends: the ferns, the toads, the moss. Finally, relief found me, now that I had decided who to be. The girl alone. The girl who despises the English word “my.””

Quiara looks like a white girl, but she lives with her Puerto Rican family and loves them – her aunts, uncles, cousins, her Abuela. They live close to poverty. There is tragedy. This is when the AIDS epidemic begins and she loses 3 beloved relative to AIDS, possibly. There was uncertainty over their deaths; sores all over, a slow wasting away. The wife and mother (I believe the deaths were all from one Aunt’s family – her husband and 2 of her children) grieved loudly – falling on the floor and screaming- at their funerals.

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God Promised Me Wings to Fly: Life for Survivors after Suicide

by Janet V. Grillo, 2021

The library’s monthly biographies email recommended this book. I don’t know. She is a sweetheart, but she is so child-like, innocent, gullible. Her husband, Tony, committed suicide. Then she found out he was having one affair after another and she had to get tested for STDs. Thankfully, she didn’t have one, but she had had one about 5 years ago (chlamydia) and her doctor told her this is only sexually transmitted, but her husband denied being unfaithful, said the doctor was wrong, and she believed him. It also turns out he may have been involved with the Mafia. They lived in Wilmington, Delaware. They were the rich, country club set. And very heavy drinkers. After her husband died, she was on anxiety medication and she took those freely at the same time as continuing to drink heavily. And she cried and cried and cried. She would hole up for months on end, it sounded like. She would cry out to God, asking Him where was He. Somehow, someway, with a lot of help from a lot of people, she gradually healed and she wrote this book in hopes of helping others heal.

At the beginning of her healing process, she consulted mediums to try and talk with Tony. Supposedly, he did tell her several things – I’m sorry, get on with your life – it was all a game to me, etc. Then, she was convicted about using mediums because the Bible says not to, so she stopped consulting mediums. “But ultimately, as much as I wanted to hear the information from mediums, my Catholic faith began to convict me. I needed to trust God and His leadership in my life, not rely on what other humans were telling me. One day I turned to the Bible in search of God’s message to His people and found Micah 5:12: “I will destroy your witchcraft and you will no longer cast spells.”

“In the process of getting closer to God, I made a commitment to eliminate mediums from my life. From that moment, I chose to follow God’s chosen path and not rely on witchcraft. And I left the unanswered questions in God’s hands.”

She started reading the Bible, a lot. She wrote in a journal, a lot. She wrote letters to God, and several times, He wrote back. She read the book, The Secret, and bought into that completely. She used several self-help methods.

She moved to Florida in 2014 and has lived in Viera, Florida, since that time.

Here are some of the quotes I like:

She doesn’t know who said this: “Don’t worry about tomorrow, God is already there.”

Lord Chesterfield: “I recommend you take care of the minutes, for the hours will take care of themselves.”

“The essential point is that it took my husband to die tragically, with a wayward life, for me to discover my true life’s purpose.”

One evening on a trip overseas she became distraught in a church in front of a statue of the Virgin Mary and Jesus, because it was like one she and Tony had seen in Italy. There was a kind sister there, who gave Janet her rosary, comforted her and promised to have a priest call her. He called her that night; they talked for 3 hours. “He explained to me that when we forgive someone, we are not excusing the act. He helped me see that forgiving Tony was the only way to free my mind and body from the pain.”…

“As much as I wanted to be positive, I found myself constantly thinking about the negatives. I noticed that my demeanor changed for the worse when I had negative thoughts.

“Out of survival, if a negative thought entered my mind, I made a firm commitment to immediately change my way of thinking.”

After 20 years, she writes: “We find our strength in looking forward, in reaching out and helping others, in forgiving.”

These are the things she’s learned for certain:

“-Our God, the God of Light, would not make us go through so much pain without having something beautiful on the other side.

“-God works miracles through ordinary events and the people in our lives. He does it through the love and goodwill deeds we do by helping others.

“-God is with us 100 percent of the time. Even when He doesn’t “feel” present, He is.

“-God will not always react to your needs in the way you expect.

“-God always responds to our faith.

“-The Bible supplies all of our answers to how we should live.”

Just Kids

Version 1.0.0

by Patti Smith, 2010

I got this book from a Little Free Library (Smith Street?). I wanted to read it because Wayne has her album, Easter, and she has always intrigued me; her lyrics and the album cover photo of her. I knew nothing about her, except for her hit song, Because the Night, which it turns out, she got from Bruce Springsteen.

This book is mainly about her relationship with Robert Mapplethorpe, whom I had never heard of, and now wish I still never knew. I don’t like him at all, but Patti Smith loved him, through and through.

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Beautiful Ruins

by Jess Walter, 2012

I got this book from a Little Free Library (I think the one on Smith Street). I LOVED IT! It’s set in Italy on the Cinque Terre, a little village called Porto Vergogna, Port of Shame. The main characters are Dee Moray and Pasquale Tursi. Dee is a beautiful American actress in Italy for the movie, Cleopatra. It is 1962. She is sick and thinks she is dying of stomach cancer, so has been sent to this little village for rest and is supposed to go on to Switzerland for treatment for her supposed stomach cancer. Pasquale is a young Italian who has returned to his father’s hotel on the cliff-side above the sea, trying to make a go of it. His father has just died, his mother is wishing she was dead, Pasquale has dreams of building a tennis court on the cliff side and a sandy beach and having a hotel full of rich, American tourists.

The book starts in 1962 when Pasquale is in the ocean tossing boulders to try and build a wall to protect his little beach. He sees the boat approach with the most beautiful woman he’s ever seen.

The book continues through 50 years of Dee’s and Pasquale’s lives. Dee was not dying of stomach cancer, she was pregnant! With Richard Burton’s child! Richard Burton and Liz Taylor are falling in love but Richard uses Dee when Liz won’t have him. Dee is hopelessly in love with Richard Burton. He’s a “Beautiful Ruin,” a hopeless drunk – he drinks alcohol from morning until night, is a womanizer, but such a talented actor. Wayne says Night of the Iguana is Richard Burton’s movie – playing himself. I just finished Anthony Hopkins’ memoir in which he wrote about Richard Burton, who lived in the same Welsh town as Anthony Hopkins – Anthony told about how he drank from morning until night, and died at the age of 58. This novel brought Richard Burton to life for me. There’s a chapter when Pasquale takes an all-day journey from Porto Vergogna to Rome to find Richard Burton and take him back to Dee – Richard is one bottle after another after another after another. It’s painful.

But Pasquale is faced with a choice – he can stay with Dee, the beautiful American who is pregnant with Richard Burton’s child, and marry her and raise her child as his own. OR – he can return to Florence and marry the mother of HIS son. He makes the right decision.

There are other wonderful characters in this book:

Claire – the young, beautiful, smart production assistant for Michael Deane Productions. She has a porn-addicted boyfriend who sleeps til noon, watches porn all day, and goes to strip clubs at night. She isn’t sure what to do with her life – quit her job and her boyfriend and work on the film museum of a cult? Or give her job and her boyfriend one last chance. Maybe today will be the day…

Michael Deane, the Hollywood publicist turned producer who saved Cleopatra from being a total failure and goes on to make one success after another. He is about 70 years old but his face has been lifted so many times, he looks really strange – this unlined face on a 70 year old man. But, he really understands people and knows what they want. They want what they want. That’s the key to his success. And he has a good heart.

Shane Wheeler – a young man who has been coddled and spoiled all his life and is recently divorced and back living in his parent’s house. He reads Michael Deane’s book about how to pitch a movie, and shows up to pitch his movie, Donner!, on the same day Claire is trying to decide whether to quit or not.

Alvis Bender – an American GI stationed in Italy at the end of WWII. He is a hopeless drunk, trying to write a novel. He goes to Porto Vergogna and stays in the little hotel every year, ostensibly to write his novel, but he only gets one chapter done. It’s a beautiful story, that one chapter. He is a drunk, too. He ends up marrying Dee Moray and raising her son, Pat (Pasquale), as his own. He dies tragically when he is in his car and Dee is in her car, next to each other at a red light – joking around – he guns his engine when the light turns green, and gets slammed by a pick-up running through the yellow light.

Pat (Pasquale) Bender: Dee and Richard Burton’s son. He is a precocious child, handsome and charismatic. He has no idea his father is Richard Burton. He founds rock bands. He is a drunk, an addict. When he is 40 and at the end of his rope – stuck in London, no money, beat up, he calls home and talks to his ex-wife Lydia who is taking care of his sick mother, and he realizes he needs to grow up. He gets control of his life, returns to his ex-wife and sick mother. They live in a cool 4-story house that Dee designed and built in the forest by a lake in Sandpoint, Idaho. They have a little theater company in Spokane – Dee runs it – she is really dying of cancer now, Lydia has written a play about Pat’s life called Front Man, and Pat is an actor playing himself. It’s a profoundly moving play. In the end, Michael Deane, Claire, Shane, and Pasquale come to find Dee and watch the play and are all deeply affected by it. They are taken to Dee’s cabin in the woods and Dee and Pasquale are reunited after 50 years. Pat finds out his real father is Richard Burton. Claire gets promoted and gets to make real movies and convinces her porn-addict boyfriend to get counselling. Shane realizes he needs to grow up and become an adult. Tries to get back together with his ex-wife, but she won’t have him. He repays her for all he took from her and eventually a young girl falls head over heels in love with him.

Dee and Pasquale reunite after 50 years – Pasquale’s beloved wife, Amedea, has died of Alzheimer’s. They had 40 good years together, children and grandchildren. His son, Bruno, the one he did right by when he decided to marry Amedea rather than Dee, convinces him to go and try and find Dee now. He shows up in Hollywood at Michael Deane’s office, lost and alone, Shane Wheeler can speak a little Italian and he has shown up at the same time to pitch his movie. These 4 people, Claire, Michael, Shane, and Pasquale begin an adventure to find Dee Moray and Richard Burton’s son.

There are fishermen in Italy, thugs in Italy, an old and crazy Aunt in Italy.

It’s a beautiful bunch of ruins – stories of beautiful, broken people, and love and dreams, growing up, doing the right things. Loved this book.

Here’s one quote from Alvis Bender talking to Carlo, Pasquale’s father, about what to name his hotel. Carlo wants to call it “The Number One Quiet Inn with a Most Beautiful View in the Village of Cliffs.” Alvis says that may be a bit long. “And sentimental.” Carlo asks what sentimental means. Alvis answers: “”Words and emotions are simple currencies. If we inflate them, they lose their value, just like money. They begin to mean nothing. Use ‘beautiful’ to describe a sandwich and the word means nothing. Since the war, there is no more room for inflated language. Words and feelings are small now–clear and precise. Humble like dreams.””

So, Carlo calls his hotel, “The Hotel Adequate View.” Pasquale inherits this little hotel.

Dee and Pasquale return to Italy 50 years later and take a boat to the village, which is now in ruins. The end of the book, Dee and Pasquale are starting to hike to the beautiful ruins to see if the paintings in the gun bunker from WWII are still there. This is the last paragraph:

“They finish their breakfast in Portovenere, go back to the hotel, and put on hiking boots. Dee assures Pasquale that she’s up for this, and they take a taxi to the end of the road, crowded now with cars and walkers and the bicycles of tourists. At a turnaround, he helps her out of the cab, pays the driver, and they set off once more on a trail along a vineyard leading into the park, up into the striated foothills that serve as backdrop to the sea-scraped cliffs. They have no idea if the paintings have faded away, or have been spray-painted with graffiti, or if the bunker still exists–or, for that matter, if it ever existed at all–but they are young and the trail is wide and easily traveled. And even if they don’t find what they’re looking for, isn’t it enough to be out walking together in the sunlight?”

Harbour Street: A Vera Stanhope Mystery

by Ann Cleeves, 2014

Fun murder mystery set in seaside town called Mardle, near Newcastle in England, modern day. Police detective, Vera Stanhope, and her team looking for the murderer of Margaret Krukowski, a 70-year old beautiful woman, living in the attic room of an inn on Harbour Street. Loved the characters, the setting. Vera is a hefty older woman, genius at solving murders, trying to get in shape but loves her cakes, pastries, whisky, fish and chips. Her #1 teammate, Joe Ashworth, is a handsome family man with wife and 3 children. He loves his job, loves his boss, but his precious daughter, Jessie, almost becomes the 3rd victim of this murderer. If it weren’t for Malcolm Kerr, who you really like but at the end think he might be the murderer, Jessie would have been the 3rd victim. The murderer ended up being Ryan Dewar, the teenage son of Kate Dewar, who runs the inn on Harbour Street. There were many engaging twists and turns and details in coming to the successful conclusion. Loved reading this book. I got it from a little free library (Smith Street?) and read it while on our wonderful Dead Horse Ranch State Park vacation with Adam, Danette, and Eliya.

We Did OK, Kid: A Memoir

by Anthony Hopkins, 2025

Excellent book by Sir Anthony Hopkins, telling his life story. He never mentions when he was born, just that he is 87 years old, and the book was published in 2025, so I’m guessing he was born in 1938, just like Mom. He was born and grew up in Wales, the only child of a baker and his wife, in the town of Port Talbot, South Wales. Richard Burton was a neighbor of his and used to come back to visit. Anthony got his autograph one day. He watched him drive away in his Jaguar and vowed to be like him one day.

This was an excellent book. I love the way he writes and tells stories – you are carried away page after page. Unbelievably, he is a very morose and lonely boy. The only child of his father and mother, Arthur Richard Hopkins and Muriel Hopkins. His dad is a baker. They all grew up in hard times, wars and hardships and endless work from an early age. His dad was particularly hard on him – berating him – telling him he’ll never amount to anything – basically, what’s wrong with you, you loser.

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Homeward Hound

by Rita Mae Brown, 2018

I picked this book out from Parkwood Estate’s Library; there were a lot of Rita Mae Brown books. I love the cover. It was disappointing. Her style is very clipped sentences, talking animals (foxes, hounds, horses, cats), and a mystery that never really made sense, even when you find out who did it. But, I did like the setting – Virginia foxhunting land – and I did like some of the characters. I learned a lot, too – foxhunting is a very involved and intricate thing – and they no longer kill the foxes (since the 1970’s). They have scheduled hunts and people fix up their horses and put on their best foxhunting clothing and shoes. They bring all their dogs and horses and let the dogs go until they find a fresh fox scent, and then the chase is on! Over hill and dale until the hounds run the fox into his hole. There is a Master of Fox Hounds, MFH, and in this book, she is Jane Arnold “Sister.” I wish our neighborhood had foxes again. This book made me miss them.

She dedicates the book to: “Dedicated to Mr. and Mrs. James Evert, who taught us at South Side tennis courts and later at Holiday Park tennis courts that it is the Ten Commandments not the Ten suggestions”

It’s strange that it is dedicated to tennis legends in Florida and there is not one reference to tennis in the whole book, and the book is set in Virginia.

I am glad I read the book – it was an interesting cast of characters and setting and subject – foxhunting in Virginia and the people and animals and countryside.

Murder in Mesopotamia

by Agatha Christie, 1936

Fun mystery set in the desert of Iraq, near Baghdad. A nurse, Nurse Amy Leatheran, is sent to help the anxious wife (Mrs. Leidner) of an archaeologist (Mr. Leidner). They all live together in a gated compound with 8 other people who each have various jobs on the dig: Miss Johnson (elderly spinster), Mr. and Mrs. Mercado (strange, foreign couple-he’s an addict), Mr. Reiter, Richard Carey (handsome young archaeologist), David Emmott, Father Lavigny (an impostor monk), Mr. Coleman (young Englishman).

Mrs. Leidner reveals the reason for her fears to Nurse Leatheran: her first husband was a Nazi spy, she turned him in, he was supposedly executed but it wasn’t certain. Whenever she falls in love with another man, she receives a letter from him telling her he will murder her if she ever marries another man. After decades, she marries Mr. Leidner. No threats or letters come until a few years later, after they have lived a number of years at the archaeological dig in Iraq. A day or two after Mrs. Leidner tells Nurse the reason for her terrors, Mrs. Leidner is found murdered by a “heavy great quern or grinder” to her head.

Hercule Poirot is called in to solve the mystery. He happened to be in Syria and then passing through Iraq. He does solve it! It ends up being Mr. Leidner, who threw a heavy quern off the roof that lands on his wife’s head as she is looking out the window to see who is trying to scare her with a scary mask dangling by her window. Mr. Leidner is her long, lost husband. She didn’t recognize him after all those years. He starts up the threatening letters and determines to kill her because he found out his wife has fallen in love with the young, handsome Richard Carey. He loves her but he can’t handle her loving anyone else. Miss Johnson was also murdered a few days later by substituting her glass of water with a glass of poison. She died a horrible death and managed to tell Nurse Leatheran, “the window” as she died. Miss Johnson, who loved Mr. Leidner and was totally devoted to him, had figured out how Mrs. Leidner was killed and that it was Mr. Leidner who did it from the roof. Mr. Leidner felt he had to kill her too. That was a big mistake and helped Hercule solve the mystery.

Love Agatha Christie!

Percy Jackson and the Olympians: One-The Lightning Thief

by Rick Riordan, 2005

Read this book because Anza and Isabel were talking about it in the context of a movie or TV show coming out that would have the effect that the movies Lord of The Rings had on Wayne and I – we loved those books but now our images of the characters have been replaced by the actors in the movies.

It’s a children’s book series. Anza and Isabel have read all of them. There are 7 books, the last of which was published in 2024 and is called Wrath of the Triple Goddess. At first I could barely stand it. So formulaic – a copy of every children’s book series ever written: child has powers unknown to him and must fight an evil force. This book, the child is Percy Jackson, short for Perseus, 11 year-old son of the god, Poseidon, and a human mother, Sally. He is a “half-blood” and dyslexic and ADHD and continually kicked out of boarding schools. His mom lives with a disgusting human, Gabe, who plays poker all day and is a mean slob. Percy has no idea he is half human, half god. He and his mom are going on a vacation to the sea after school is out one summer. They are attacked by monsters. Percy’s mom gets scattered into gold dust, Percy is rescued by the creatures and half-bloods of the summer camp for half-bloods. Percy finds out he’s a half-blood and his father may be the god, Poseidon. He must go on a quest to find and return Zeus’s master bolt. He and his friends, Annabeth (half-blood daughter of Athena and human father), and Grover – a Satyr, venture across the country (east coast to west coast) and then down deep into Hades to recover the master bolt and return it to Zeus and save the world from another world war.

The ending was really good and I’m glad I stuck with it.

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The Loop

by Nicholas Evans, 1998

I got this book from a Little Free Library. It was about wolves, ranchers, and Federal biologists. Set in a fictional town called Hope, Montana. The beginning is SCARY – a big black wolf almost snatches a baby (the rancher’s grandson) out of his carriage on the front porch. The dog saves him but gets killed in the process. The war between the ranchers and the Federal biologists trying to keep the wolves alive and away from cattle begins. I liked the characters, a lot. Dan Prior – Head of the Fish and Wildlife division; Helen, 28-year old wolf biologist brought to Hope to help locate the wolves; Eleanor Calder, beautiful wife of Buck Calder – arrogant rancher who cheats on Eleanor; Luke Calder, 18-year old son of Buck and Eleanor, he stutters and has a heart of gold, very smart, very loving, very miserable in his father’s house; Kathy and Clyde Hicks and their baby boy, Buck – the daughter and son-in-law of Buck and Eleanor, Clyde is a ranch hand but not too bright, Kathy is the loving and bright daughter of Buck and Eleanor, and mother of baby boy Buck who the wolf almost snatched.

The interplay between these characters and the other ranchers near the town of Hope, and the town of Hope (bars, restaurants, gift shop, different events) seems very realistic. He seems to be pro-wolf, but then he does show the problems they create when they start to eat cattle. He doesn’t provide a solution either. In the end, Dan Prior and Helen are releasing 2 wolves, an alpha male and female, into the highest part of the wilderness, to replace the wolves the ranchers killed, and the young pups they had to remove down to Yellowstone.

The love story between Luke and Helen is really, really sweet. Luke saves Helen’s life – she tried to commit suicide when she finds out Joel, her boyfriend for the last few years, is getting married to a Belgian doctor he met while doing relief work in Africa. He nurses her back to health and they fall in love. Luke is a stutterer. He’s gentle and loving. He loves the wolves and all nature and wildlife. For a long time, he went around after Helen set her traps and sprung them, saving the wolves from being trapped and collared. They finally work together and face the ire of the ranchers together. In the end, Luke’s dad accidentally shoots Luke as he’s coming out of the wolf den with a load of pups, thinking he was a wolf (it was night and extremely tense). The bullet goes right through Luke’s neck with no damage but splinters on a rock and a splinter damages Luke’s left eye. The very end: Buck Calder is a changed man, a broken man. Eleanor has left him, Luke is going off to college, Buck is going to face trial for killing wolves, Dan Prior has resigned his position (he is “wolfed out”), and Helen and Luke are going to Minnesota where Luke is going to study biology and Helen is just going to “be” and she would “be” with the person she loved best in the world.

P.S. The Loop refers to a horrible trap that kills young pups when they first come out of the den.

Super Gut: A Four-Week Plan to Reprogram Your Microbiome, Restore Health, and Lose Weight

by William Davis, MD (author of Wheat Belly), 2022

Danette’s Aunt recommended this book; it helped her lose 30 pounds and feel so much better all around. His premise is that modern life has wreaked havoc on our microbiome and that destruction and proliferation of bad bacteria up the digestive tract, SIBO and SIFO – Small Intestinal Bacterial Overgrowth and Small Intestinal Fungal Overgrowth – are causing us to have many, many problems that we look to pharmaceuticals to cure, when really, simply restoring a health gut biome would fix us. His 4-week plan involves first killing the bad bacteria that is in the small intestine, mainly through natural antibiotics like clove oil or oregano oil – a few drops in olive oil twice a day – and his Super Gut Yogurt, which is these 3 species of probiotics: Lactobacillus reuteri DSM 17938, ATCC PTA 6475 (from everidis.com); Lactobacillus gasseri BNR17 from mercolamarket.com called “Biothin Probiotic” with 10 billion CFUs per capsule, and Bacillus coagulans GBI-30,6086 available as the Digestive Advantage product from Schiff, available at Walmart.

It is very hard to test for SIBO and SIFO. SIBO testing involves a breath analyzer. But the symptoms of SIBO are like irritable bowel syndrome, bowel urgency, bloating, fibromyalgia, restless leg syndrome, fatty liver, diverticular disease, various food intolerances, gallstones, autoimmune and neurodegenerative conditions, and type 2 diabetes. Also, rosacea. “Unhealthy bacteria and fungi have been recovered from arteries, breasts, prostate glands, even the human brain, representing an invasion of microbes whose health effects are only beginning to be appreciated.” (page 11).

This invasion starts at birth with a C-section and then not breast-feeding. Babies born via C-section do not get the microbiome from their mothers that comes from the birth canal. Then, formula-fed babies do not get the good microbiome from their mother’s milk. He has recipes for a yogurt that a mother can eat that will pass along the good probiotics to the baby through breast-feeding. He talks about how Nestle encouraged mothers in Africa to formula-feed their babies, rather than breast feed. So these poor women did not breast-feed, instead paying for formula, and then diluting it so it went further, resulting in malnourished babies. Formula feeding was encouraged in the U.S. too – doctors and hospitals were paid to hand out formula. All of these babies did not get the good bacteria that sets them up for a healthy life: Lactobacillus and Bifidobacterium.

So many factors involved in the destruction of our gut: Glyphosate and other herbicides and pesticides destroy good gut biome. Antibiotics destroy good bacteria. Ozone pollution destroys them. NSAIDs destroy good gut biome. Prescription drugs that reduce stomach acid destroy them.

Page 12: “The recent discovery that people who die of Alzheimer’s dementia have brain tissue riddled with fungi, an observation that we shall discuss further, is especially concerning.”

(more…) “Super Gut: A Four-Week Plan to Reprogram Your Microbiome, Restore Health, and Lose Weight”

The Egoscue Method of Health Through Motion: A Revolutionary Program That Lets You Rediscover the Body’s Power to Protect and Rejuvenate Itself

by Pete Egoscue with Roger Gittines, 1992

Neighbor Sue loaned me this book, mostly for Wayne and his back pain. Wayne had already bought and studied “Built from Broken” from Justin. That has given him good exercises to do.

Good beginning – stressing how modern Americans no longer move and that is our problem in a nutshell. We sit almost all day and our bodies are changing as a result. Then, we try to start exercising and we experience pain.

Stanford did a study on his method and found that 17 people experienced a 31 percent decrease in pain levels after 2 months (May 2017).

He looks at his clients to determine what category they fall in:

Condition 1 reminds me of Tyler – feet everted (angled outward), knees out, pelvis tilted forward, sagging gut, head tilts forward and down, chin drops.

Condition 2: head angled off-line to one side, shoulder drooped forward and down, back of hand showing and may be hanging lower than other hand.

Condition 3: Head juts forward; rounding, drooping shoulders; S-curve of lower spine flattened out, both hips tilted under.

D-Lux is ideal: Everything is aligned and parallel: Shoulder joints, hip joints, knee joints, ankle joints, feet pointing forward, weight on balls of feet. Head erect and straight chin level. Hands hang alongside body, thumb and index fingers visible.

When people come to him in pain, he has them do three exercises until they no longer have pain: Static back press, supine groin stretch, and air bench (wall sit). Once the pain goes, you start with a series of exercises, up to 22 of them, in order, every day. There are different exercises depending upon which Category you fall into. If you have some characteristics of more than one Category, start with the exercises for Category 2 or 3 and then move to Category 1.

The Static Back Press is lying flat on your back with your knees and lower legs resting on a box or platform knee high. Right and left hips both flat on the floor. Breathe in and out deeply.

The Supine Groin Stretch: lie on your back with one leg resting on a block at 90 degrees and the other leg stretched out with something to prop the foot and keep it from flopping to the side. Not really easy to understand but the idea is to keep the hips level and the back completely flat on the floor. Breathe deeply and keep lowering the extended leg (???) until the hip flexors are relaxed (????).

Air Bench is basically a wall sit: press the small of your back and your hips against the wall. Feet shoulder width apart and far away enough so that your knees are above your ankles, not your toes. “If you have pain in the kneecaps, slide up the wall a bit.” Breathe, and to come out of this, push off with your hands against the wall and walk around for a minute.

(more…) “The Egoscue Method of Health Through Motion: A Revolutionary Program That Lets You Rediscover the Body’s Power to Protect and Rejuvenate Itself”

The Closers: A Harry Bosch Novel

by Michael Connelly, 2005

LOVED this book! I love the way Michael Connelly writes. His crime dramas are meticulously detailed but so suspenseful. They are never graphic or explicit, ugly or dirty. The character, Harry Bosch, is so kind and well-meaning and professional and good. He teams up with his former partner, Kiz Rider (black female) whom I loved also. They solve the cold case (“Open-Unsolved”) murder of a 16 year old girl, Rebecca Verloren, in 1988. It’s 17 years later. They have a DNA match for a Roland Mackey. They find him, working at a Tow Truck company. They get approval for wire-tapping and they use an article in the paper that the case has been reopened due to a DNA match, to make him nervous and hope he makes some phone calls. It works – too good – the actual murderer reads the article and manages to kill Roland Mackey by squishing him between his car and a the tow truck. Harry and Kiz are there right after it happens but the murderer is gone.

Harry figures out who the real murder is – it’s Gordon Stoddard. He is now the principal of the school Rebecca went to. He was her teacher then. It is amazing how Harry and Kiz figure it out – by looking at the phone logs into the Tow Truck company from the wire-tap. Then, because Harry is so observant, and he had seen a post-it note at the Tow Truck company the day before that Roland was trying read (he is dyslexic) that said Visa called to verify his employment. They figured out that that call was made by the real murderer to see if he worked there. The way they figured that out was by calling the tow truck company listed in the yellow pages right above that one and asking them if someone had called yesterday from Visa asking about Roland Mackey. Sure enough, someone had. So then they knew the phone call coming in at 1:40 was from the murderer – only it wasn’t – it was from a student at the high school. Turns out her phone was confiscated and was in the Principal’s office all day-the principal used it to make the phone call. He was the murderer. AMAZING – page-turner. Loved it!

This book I got from Mom. After she moved into Parkwood Estates, she had it (must have gotten it from the Little Free Library on Columbia) and she said it was so good she couldn’t stop reading it. I think it is the last book she read that she really understood.